Family and some advice from personal experience...
Well...Lately, my family has been teasing me lately for my staying up all night chatting with friends I have made on AE. "You got a new boyfriend?" my 18 year old sister asked me the other day, as I made my way through the kitchen with some juice. I just smiled and said "maybe!"
"That means yes!" She replied, smiling about it. She thinks she knows everything, and being my 'hot younger sister', she does have a little idea of what is happening. She tried to get me to date this guy, who she deemed "perfect for me", and it went terribly wrong! I guess that is what I get for not being out to the family.
My mother assumes I have someone online too, and I guess AE is a someone. I also have tons of friends on there, so, I am building my support system so to speak. When I do finally come out to family, I am going to need to talk about it to some people, and my support is on there! Thank you to my AE friends!!!
But by no means have I been hiding my sexuality either. "Man! Motorcycles are hot!" I said in the car the other day. Mother just nodded and kept on driving. Perhaps she was too tired or maybe she just didn't care, I don't know, but she just nodded, and that is so not a normal response from her.
And then there is the fact that lately, since EVERYONE is "coming out", my mom seems to think that if any of us kids do, it must be a faze! I am like "how can I tell her and get her to understand that I am serious?!"
It has been a fashion among the ladies especially. "I kissed my best friend...I must be gay! Hehe!" That is the latest thought among girls. No...Haven't you ever seen 'Cruel Intentions'? You need to practice on your friends! ;)
Not only is it the latest fashion among women, but girls don't realize what comes with it. I fully understand that if I get a girlfriend, I am expected to have a certain kind of sex with her, a kind that is different from what I would have with a guy. I am not scared, it does not gross me out, I get it! But I have to wonder how many of the "new lesbians" understand that not only is a romance about someones personality, its also about sex! They think that because their last boyfriend bored them to tears a girl can fix that; that she will be perfect for them and all that because she is not a guy...but they don't understand that it is a bit more complex than that.
I am tired of the fashion. While the latest newly out girls are physically hot, they are also total idiots half the time. "I like...went tanning...and...yahhh..." valley types! I don't want to date that! Although they do make good arm ornaments...lol. Trophy girlfriends...hehe! I want someone I can talk with about all sorts of things, and by the time we do want to have sex, we will know a lot about each other and we will be ready and it will be fan-freakin-tastic!
And there is one bit of advice I would like to give all of you questioning women out there: Try out both before you decide you are gay! It is OKAY to have girls that are your friend and you feel attracted to them. Its normal for girls to admire each others beauty...One can look at another girl and be like "she is beautiful." and it is a fact and an admiration and it does not mean you wanna do her and are gay. Don't go jumping to conclusions. Try everything first. I made out with a girl and I knew I liked it better than the last guy kiss I had, dated a guy, hated it, will never do it again...it took time and experiences for me to realize that I was gay. Not only that, but at five I was gay...I have known my whole life!
I have a very straight male friend, and he and I were looking at pictures on the internet of models. A good looking male model came up and I said "what do you think?" and I was actually being serious. He said "He is a good looking guy" and I was impressed. The first thing he said was "I am straight and I am comfortable to enough to admit when another man is good looking."
We as women need to see that as well. Before you go running off thinking you are gay, analyze a bit. Think "Is she just attractive, or is there something more I am feeling?" If you are feeling more, then you are possibly gay/bi and should investigate further. But if you just find her attractive and thats it, then...Your average! Even my very straight sister can admit when her friends are good looking and attractive. "Yeah, she looked hot!" My sister said about her friend at a recent school dance. Its normal.
I just want this fashion to fade, because for me, it is absolultely about the PERSON and not about the gender. Yes, I am def. lesbian more than straight, but...I call myself a 70/30. It is more likely that I will like a girl, but is a PERFECT guy came, I would fall for him...I admit it! So...I don't know if that makes me gay or bi...I consider myself a lesbian for the most part...but bi is also accepted.
So...There you have it. A bit more serious post with some funnies for sure! :) I need ideas people! Once you have read this, please tell me what to write about next!!!
"That means yes!" She replied, smiling about it. She thinks she knows everything, and being my 'hot younger sister', she does have a little idea of what is happening. She tried to get me to date this guy, who she deemed "perfect for me", and it went terribly wrong! I guess that is what I get for not being out to the family.
My mother assumes I have someone online too, and I guess AE is a someone. I also have tons of friends on there, so, I am building my support system so to speak. When I do finally come out to family, I am going to need to talk about it to some people, and my support is on there! Thank you to my AE friends!!!
But by no means have I been hiding my sexuality either. "Man! Motorcycles are hot!" I said in the car the other day. Mother just nodded and kept on driving. Perhaps she was too tired or maybe she just didn't care, I don't know, but she just nodded, and that is so not a normal response from her.
And then there is the fact that lately, since EVERYONE is "coming out", my mom seems to think that if any of us kids do, it must be a faze! I am like "how can I tell her and get her to understand that I am serious?!"
It has been a fashion among the ladies especially. "I kissed my best friend...I must be gay! Hehe!" That is the latest thought among girls. No...Haven't you ever seen 'Cruel Intentions'? You need to practice on your friends! ;)
Not only is it the latest fashion among women, but girls don't realize what comes with it. I fully understand that if I get a girlfriend, I am expected to have a certain kind of sex with her, a kind that is different from what I would have with a guy. I am not scared, it does not gross me out, I get it! But I have to wonder how many of the "new lesbians" understand that not only is a romance about someones personality, its also about sex! They think that because their last boyfriend bored them to tears a girl can fix that; that she will be perfect for them and all that because she is not a guy...but they don't understand that it is a bit more complex than that.
I am tired of the fashion. While the latest newly out girls are physically hot, they are also total idiots half the time. "I like...went tanning...and...yahhh..." valley types! I don't want to date that! Although they do make good arm ornaments...lol. Trophy girlfriends...hehe! I want someone I can talk with about all sorts of things, and by the time we do want to have sex, we will know a lot about each other and we will be ready and it will be fan-freakin-tastic!
And there is one bit of advice I would like to give all of you questioning women out there: Try out both before you decide you are gay! It is OKAY to have girls that are your friend and you feel attracted to them. Its normal for girls to admire each others beauty...One can look at another girl and be like "she is beautiful." and it is a fact and an admiration and it does not mean you wanna do her and are gay. Don't go jumping to conclusions. Try everything first. I made out with a girl and I knew I liked it better than the last guy kiss I had, dated a guy, hated it, will never do it again...it took time and experiences for me to realize that I was gay. Not only that, but at five I was gay...I have known my whole life!
I have a very straight male friend, and he and I were looking at pictures on the internet of models. A good looking male model came up and I said "what do you think?" and I was actually being serious. He said "He is a good looking guy" and I was impressed. The first thing he said was "I am straight and I am comfortable to enough to admit when another man is good looking."
We as women need to see that as well. Before you go running off thinking you are gay, analyze a bit. Think "Is she just attractive, or is there something more I am feeling?" If you are feeling more, then you are possibly gay/bi and should investigate further. But if you just find her attractive and thats it, then...Your average! Even my very straight sister can admit when her friends are good looking and attractive. "Yeah, she looked hot!" My sister said about her friend at a recent school dance. Its normal.
I just want this fashion to fade, because for me, it is absolultely about the PERSON and not about the gender. Yes, I am def. lesbian more than straight, but...I call myself a 70/30. It is more likely that I will like a girl, but is a PERFECT guy came, I would fall for him...I admit it! So...I don't know if that makes me gay or bi...I consider myself a lesbian for the most part...but bi is also accepted.
So...There you have it. A bit more serious post with some funnies for sure! :) I need ideas people! Once you have read this, please tell me what to write about next!!!
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