More Romantic Experience And Advice

Wow! Well, let me just tell you a bit of what I have learned about WOMEN...

1) They are extremely confusing. That's right, they are confusing! They will mess with u, they will not text you for days and days, they will hurt you, you will become confused by them, you won't know what to get them or if you should get them anything for Christmas or whatever, it's all just so confusing, ESPECIALLY if you are a girl dating a girl.

2) Don't be afraid to open up. That's right, OPEN UP! Don't be closed off, especially to women. They can tell...

3) Don't move too fast. Just let things happen. Don't try to force ANYTHING.

THINGS TO REMEMBER...

1) If you get broken up with, you will bounce back! That's right, you will be okay!!! You might not feel like it at the time, but you will.

2) One or two or even three dates does not make someone your girlfriend, so don't take ANYTHING to mean more than that unless specified otherwise.

3) That wall that you put around your heart should stay there until you have declared that you two are together for good, then you can take it down!

4) It's not your fault. Remember that! If someone says "I don't feel a connection with you..." or "I just don't think we're right for each other..." it's nothing that you could have fixed. Some people just aren't meant to be.

5) Don't obsess. Just be patient. If you sit at home being creepy...looking at all her pictures, waiting for her to come online, etc. it makes you appear needy! Go and do stuff in your life and once she sees that she is not the center of it, she will want to be and she will call/text you and ask for a date/a get together.

6) Appearances are not everything! Who the girl is on the inside is really all that matters, so as long as YOU like who she is and have no problem with how she looks, nothing else matters. Society teaches us that looks ARE everything, but go above society and learn to love WHO the person is and not how they look.

7) You can't control anyone. Period. You can only control you.

8) Sex isn't everything, and it only becomes part of the equation when you let it. Take your time and make sure you want to really be with someone before sleeping with them.

9) All things worth having take time: Sometimes this means waiting awhile before you date, before you become someones boyfriend or girlfriend, etc.

10) You matter too! Often, we get so caught up in who we are seeing/dating/being the boyfriend/girlfriend of that we forget about ourselves. Your important as well...Don't forget that!

There you have it...My advice...

An Update On My Life!!!

It all started when I joined the website http://www.okcupid.com/. This site is a dangerous addiction that I must confess, I go on way too much. While I have made two friends from the site, (Allie and Holly, who I would like to hook up with each other.) and I reconnected with Nichelle care of it as well, I have found myself being "winked" at by a lot of very femme lesbians. However, I have met one who has really caught my attention. We talked all night for like four hours, and we just connected. =) I have a date with her Sunday and I am so excited for it. She is just so sweet and I cant wait to finally get to know her better.

Then there is the 30 year old from San Diego. She flies up here, to Seattle, for business about every five weeks, and it seems like she wants to be my booty call or mrs. robinson, but she is single. Haha! I don't know what is going to happen there. She is attractive and adorable, but the problem is that I get the feeling she wants someone more mature, and I am just not there yet. Oh well! A friend...=)

And then there is this Jenny girl in my class, and she looks at everyone like she hates them almost all the time. Its confusing, but she really looks like she hates me. I don't get it! I had the strangest dream the other night about her and all of this. I confronted her in class, when we were on a break, and she was like "I don't hate you. Come over here." So I went over to where she normally sits in the class and she grabbed me, pushed me up against the wall and kissed me. When we finally stopped, she was like "You just make me wanna..." and she couldn't finish it because she just kept looking at me all funny and I didn't know what to say. So I just said "Well you should have said something earlier...I am afterall a single lesbian." And she laughed at that and said "well now what?" And my dream ended. Strange!

Thats basically all that is going on with me. Mother wants me to stop dating women...She is unhappy about it, but thats fine...I don't care! lol. It was crazy though. My sisters friend Peter is the first male I have been attracted to in like 2 years. Its creeping me out! I dont really want to do him, but I would like him to be a sperm donor when I do want a baby...hehehe! Is that so wrong?

Hope you enjoyed that!